The Love Bank
The Love Bank
The logic of love
The logic of love
The logic of love and emotions says we are naturally drawn to people who are a source of pleasure in our lives. That means different things to different people and also changes over the course of a lifetime together. At one moment in our life, it may be connected to someone who helps us succeed in school or find a solution to a particular challenge; at another time, it could be about creating a home, raising children, achieving financial success, companionship, affection, having someone who brings new experiences to our lives, or anything in between. It’s important to discover what’s a pleasure to your partner and to recognize that many things change over time.
What makes you feel cared about?
Don’t assume that what makes you feel cared about is the same for your partner. As Dr. Gary Chapman writes in “The Five Love Languages,” for some of us, words of affirmation may be most important. For others, it may be about quality time together, affection and touch, gifts and presents, or acts of service that help accomplish goals, assignments, or chores. It’s natural to have different ways of giving and receiving love in different relationships. Actions that say “I love you!” to a spouse may be very different than what makes a teenager feel cared about.
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