Love Knots 4
Love Knot #6
If we don’t agree,
one of us must be wrong.
If it’s me, that means I am
bad, stupid, ignorant, or inadequate. So it can’t be me.
I must prove that it’s you,
so I won’t feel like
a failure.
Untangled
We should be able to disagree. We are all unique, and disagreements are a natural reflection of our uniqueness.
Reflection
How do you feel when a significant other disagrees with you? What price has your relationship paid for arguments about different views and perspectives?
Consider a time when you argued or distanced from someone who was important in your life because you didn’t agree. What would help you embrace future differences as a natural part of all relationships and become open to hearing and considering
other views without having to agree with each other?
Love Knot #7
If I ask what
you are thinking or feeling,
I believe I am intruding (as you would tell me if you wanted me to know).
If I don’t ask,
you believe I’m not interested,
so you never tell me.
We live as strangers.
Untangled
Confiding is the life blood of intimacy. I need to be able to ask for information, and you need to be able to volunteer it when I don’t ask. If we are to nurture our relationship, it is crucial that we speak our truths, ask our questions, and keep each other informed.
Reflection
Remember a period in your life when it was natural to have open, flowing conversations together. How did that feel? What did it mean to you to know that you could talk about anything and everything with each other?
What does it mean to have a witness to your life and to be a witness to someone else’s life? What would make it natural and safe for others to share their thoughts and feelings with you? What do you need from others?