The Placater and Distracter run away by canceling out their own feelings and needs. The Distracter, like the Computer, can also be a way of freezing -- like a deer caught in the headlights, not knowing what to do with feelings, so pretending they don’t exist. Blamers fight, often needlessly escalating conflict and creating distance. All of these styles will keep us stuck on the PAIN side of the Relationship Road Map. The “Emotional Openness” aspect of Bonding means learning to level with each other with empathy, maturity, and a desire for the relationship to win. Each style also has some positive aspects. Can you identify them?