Emotional Allergy
Emotional Allergy Negative Infinity Loop
Having the intensity of an Emotional Allergy makes something feel much worse than the actual current situation might be. When we have an Emotional Allergy, we feel much worse than others might feel, and we wind up reacting with more intensity than others might understand or accept. It’s as if we hand the bill for something someone did to us in the past to someone in the present. We can find ourselves stuck in an Emotional Allergy Negative Infinity Loop
when our intense response triggers an Emotional Allergy in the other person.
The loop represents two separate people; each on their own side, yet joined and bonded to each other. Each brings their own unique emotional allergies. One person’s loop can begin with a triggering event by the other person’s behavior, as shown in this example. Many couples spend years in cycles that lead to distance, disappointment, and the surrender of once cherished wishes, hopes, and dreams. Learning to transform this Negative Infinity Loop into one that makes it possible to be healing to each other is a central goal of PAIRS Essentials.