1. Placater

Under stress, the Placater cancels out their own thoughts, feelings, and needs, is eager to please, and has a hard time saying ‘no.’ Inside, the Placater can feel taken for granted and build up resentment towards others. 

Under stress, the Blamer believes the best defense is a good offense. This communication style is one where the other person’s needs and feelings are not taken into account. For the Blamer, it is “all about me! ”Inside, the Blamer feels lonely because often no one wants to be around him/her. Blamers are often angry because they anticipate not getting what they want, including approval. Passively or actively, notice how the styles push others away.