Fair Fight for Change. No matter how tempting, don’t get in the way of participants experiencing, 

and perhaps struggling, through the process of identifying and negotiating their own solutions. 

As coaches, it can be tempting to offer advice or a solution during the Fair Fight for Change. Remember, the goal is for participants to learn to use the process to negotiate their own solutions. While coaches may have excellent ideas for resolving a particular issue or conflict, this process is about couples discovering they can find their own answers. Whatever the issue is today, there will be other issues in the future. The role of coaches is to help participants learn to stay in the safe structure of the Fair Fight for Change process, gently call attention to any dirty fighting (when necessary), and support the couple learning to fight for the relationship, not against each other.