Love Knots 1
Hidden Assumptions & Expectations
Hidden assumptions and expectations can create distance and misunderstanding in relationships. Love Knots are commonly held beliefs that seem to be true. However, they are not true because they are not based on logical, realistic thinking. Love Knots can be very harmful to a relationship/
PAIRS Founder Lori Gordon identified dozens of hidden assumptions and expectations many couples have about their relationships.
Consider these examples to see which may be interfering with intimacy in your life. You can also learn more at apps.pairs.com/loveknots.
Love Knot #1
If you really
loved me, you would
know what I want,
and you would do it.
Since you don’t, you
obviously don’t care.
Untangled
I cannot assume that you know what I want and need. I will ask for what I want and not expect you to know.
Reflection
When have you waited for others to guess what you want and do it,
becoming disappointed, hurt, or distant when they didn’t?
What happened as a result?